“I tried to restore my marriage. I prayed, put my hand on my wife’s head and pleaded for healing,
only to lose in the end,” confesses Isidor Buchmann. “No, I didn’t expect a perfect marriage.
I only wanted to do what was best for the family.” He then concludes with this sobering words:
“My intentions were noble and right, but it was a shock to me when I realized that continuing
with an ailing marriage was not in the best interests of the family.”
While divorce may seem justified to some, those in the Christian community often face judgment and criticism when leaving an irrational spouse, and Isidor is no exception. It was during many heated debates with Christian friends that Isidor realized this misunderstanding and wrote God’s Grace in Divorce — Choosing Between Preserving the Marriage and Protecting the Children. The book breaks the myth that all divorces are self-infected and preventable.
“I want to help spouses who feel misunderstood and are broken,” says Isidor. “More than
anything, I want to bring hope and encouragement to rebuild a broken family, albeit alone.
The happiness and well-being of the children must come first.”
God’s Grace in Divorce tells a true story of a marriage done in good faith, raising five children
under troubled circumstances and experiencing religious controversies over divorce. Isidor’s writing
conveys the passionate struggle of a man torn between strict church doctrines on one extreme and the
forbidden exit on the other. The message reflects the inner turmoil of a believer who tried to follow
a righteous path but got entangled in a mire of religious rules.
God’s Grace in Divorce is a journey in understanding God’s plan for us. It provides
encouragement in knowing that we can conquer arduous times with willpower, determination and
perseverance. “No, my divorce was not desirable, but the ending is victorious in that God
replenished what the locusts had eaten,” concludes Isidor. Accepting our destiny brings hope,
healing and inner peace. With God, all things are possible (Matthew 19:26).